Today, my hubby celebrating his 29th years anniversary. I wish he can lead me as his wife to the good way, May Allah SWT always give him patient, happiness, wealthy, safety, health, and strength, also I pray to Allah SWT that giving a baby to make our relation more complete, amen. Tonight we celebrate his birthday with eating barbeque J…. Today, my aunt’s family was coming here also to celebrate my hubby’s birthday. We ate pudding in Halmahera. Last night, in the middle of the night….I came to our room to give him a big presentJ. I gave him a wedding photograph to remind us. Actually, I love my hubby….He’s patient, clever, but sometimes he makes me angry because sometimes he didn’t care about meL especially when he concentrate his games. He can play games on computer until 02.00 a . m, I’ve just afraid with his health. But, when I told him he didn’t want to hear me. Beside games, I’m jealous when he was busy with his job. Did he knows that I’m miss to have a baby ?. OK, I’ll understand if he’s got good salary on his office but he must remember that my ages nearly 30 years old. It’s a dangerous age if I want to plan having a baby. I’ve just pray that Allah SWT give us the way to have a baby, amen. He’s touching when I gave him a present and pray for him in the middle of the night. I’m almost crying to see his eyes looks cried. I knew that he loved me also, he loves me with his way. He’s not romantic person. He is a realistic person. I can’t force him to be romantic because I don’t like with a man that he’s romantic in front of me but behind me he has another relation with other woman. I likes with an honest person. I’m enough with romantic manL. I can only pray that my hubby always walk in the right way, amen. In the future I’ve just only pray the best for my lovely hubby likes I mentioned at the beginning my letter, amenJ.
One’s more …….Happy Birthday my Yuwono Ratenha on March, 16 , 2008. May Allah SWT bless your wishes and guides you to the right way, gives u health, wealthy, happiness, safety, patient and May Allah SWT protect our family from evil and bad people, gives us best baby to make our marriage complete, amenJ…..Loves U, babe.
2 comments:
You're right. It's not good that your husband keeps playing games on the computer when he should spend this time with his family. He may be addicted to it. He is wasting his time and it's your right to have his love and affection and you are right to be angry with him regarding this. His behaviour is not good Islamically. You should read about the rights of a wife in Islam and maybe talk to him about it. If he's a good Muslim he'll try to change. Make dua that he changes.
Regarding having a baby, you can have a child even when you are older even women upto their 40s have had children. Although, it's better to have kids before the age of 35 yrs of age to prevent any genetic problems. If you are serious about having children, although I don't recommend having children until your husband proves himself to be a better person, you can try in the following way.
1. Are your periods regular? I mean, do they come every 28, 29, 30 days?
2. If they come on time, then you simply have to count 14 days back from the date you expect your periods. Eg. If your periods will come on 30th of september, count back 14 days which is 16th september. This is when you will ovulate.
3. Because the egg can be fertilized by the sperm upto about 72 hrs, it is recommended to have sex on the days around the ovulation, in this case, it'll be better from 14, 15th, 16th, 17th and 18th of september. This increases the likelihood of getting pregnant.
PS, I'm a dr. I hope this helps inshaAllah but I sincerely feel you should try to see if things improve with your husband before planning to get pregnant. I know it's not my place to even suggest divorce but I dislike hearing about women who continue to live in an unhappy marriage. Consult someone knowledgeable like an Islamic scholar. Good luck!
PS: If you are on birth control pills then you obviously have to discontinue that and any other contraceptive in order to get pregnant. :)
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